To: Yanmin
Re: Considering a software development position
Why must be always be enemies whenever we fight? Why can't we have a disagreement that doesn't progress to a more serious level, where it is only my ideas that are attacked instead of my character, too?
I'm not insulting when I'm honest with you. If insults were all about intention, I could promise you that I have no intention of being insulting or condescending. But they're not—it's entirely possible to insult a person without meaning to. Still, I don't believe that I've been condescending.
I'm honest.
Honesty can be a bitter pill to swallow. At least you'll know that when I support you, I mean it; I'm not supportive just because you need it, but also because I really do believe in you. I do!
So, why must our arguments be so ugly? I have nothing but good intentions, I swear it. I'm Mr. Good Intentions, who knows perfectly well that the road to hell is paved with my flesh and bones, and hates that bad outcome trumps good intention.
I might be tactless, or wrong, but I'm not evil.
It's later now. I've calmed down some.
Lesson to learn: Provide my opinion, but after I've said my piece, leave it at that. I shouldn't have pushed my point so hard, it didn't help matters at all.
Yanmin's right about one thing—I have a huge ego. I should be more humble, less confrontational.